Accepting Life
by Thota Srinivas
Life tries to bring a new person from within us every moment. Let
that person take the shape and form. Let’s not strangle this transformation
with unnecessary distractions, overt over thinking, smothering bonds, silly
sentiments and purposeless goals.
- People
will say because they have got to say; they do even when they got no point
to prove;
- parents
pamper because they love us; they do even though we don’t reciprocate
the same;
- friends do
distract us because they need fun; they do regardless of whether we are
interested or not but ---
- life knocks us
down not because it is harsh but because it wants us to spring up high
every time it does so; it does until the transformation we are destined to
experience becomes a reality. Now the big question is …..are we ready for
this big moment in our life, from our life, by our life, with our life..!?
Let’s see how to get poised to confront and accept our life the
way it is!
1. Do
not give up
Do not give up in the face of difficulties, for they test our
character and mental vigour. They are just passing clouds which shall not stick
with us for a long time. Success, we will anyhow achieve, but if failure comes
in any form, let’s accept it with a smile and a sportive spirit. Bad times hate
such people so they leave us without lingering if they sense our
never-giving-up attitude.
2. Be
sensible
Be judicious and prudent while making any kind of decision. Lets
listen to others who advise us; let’s take their guidance but we will have to
make our own decisions since it’s we who have to bear the
consequences of our own actions …not our parents, not are friends, not the
society but 'WE.'
3. Don’t
get swayed
Let’s not be influenced by anyone even if it is our parents while
doing anything important in our life. Getting influenced only tells how
dependent we are , how ignorant we are, how gullible we are and how easily we
can be used by others.
We might be controlled by others and fail to enjoy our freedom.
And it also talks about our immaturity. Such quality of ours will let us face
unforeseen troubles in the future. And when troubles do apparently brew up,
firstly we’ll have to play the blame game and then play the victim card.
4. Muster
up to say ‘NO’
Things seem to be pretty fascinating sometimes… so mesmerizing
that we lose a grip of ourselves …so captivating that nothing and nobody seems
as important as those or them…so hypnotizing that we fail to mistake good for
bad and bad for good ; nevertheless, this is the moment we need to muster up
enough courage to say ' NO' to things which seem virtuous but are vicious .
Let’s accept only those which can make a positive impact on our career and
life.
5. Health
above everything
Too much of anything is too bad. Be it - food or rest or fun or
studies or relationships. Let us set limitations to everything we need but need
in a balanced way. Let’s give considerable importance to our health as nothing
is possible without a sound body.
6. Be
goal-oriented
Nothing else should matter to us when we have clarity of our goals
and aims. But the tough job is to fix a constructive goal or a set of aims that
match up with our interests. Let’s think about what we are inclined to, what
interests us, what gives peace of mind to us and what’s that we enjoy doing and
love to do throughout our life.
Once this analysis is done, then goals are to be fixed and an
action plan needs to be charted out .Let’s give utmost prominence to our
career, dream about our goal and work as if we are destined to achieve what we
want.
7. Trust
in God
We all grew up trusting in God which never did any harm. Instead
had let us be gentle and grateful. Now that we have grown up let’s not let
logic drive away the reason. If trusting in God does good to us, there is no
point in looking for logic in this bond.
Always bear in mind if we trust in God, we seen God in others and
we tend to believe that God comes in the form of opportunities and people with
good intentions. Let’s accept them or those with optimism.
8. Stop
being too inquisitive
The interesting thing is that God has set everything in our life-
career- success- love- marriage- family - rest. Problems arise only when we try
to disturb the arrangement of God's plan by doing things well in advance out of
our inquisitiveness even before they themselves take place or by delaying them
when they need to take place. Most of them act quickly without knowing this and
fall flat on their nose.
We do not need the examples of such people. They are in plenty
around us and we will meet many samples of such people in our life if not
sooner at least later. We can't avoid them but we must learn from their
experiences.
9. Don’t
mess up!
Surprisingly, life gives us everything we need and then sees how
we are going to use them. We are so foolishly clever or cleverly foolish that
we either overuse them or under-use them or ignore them or disrespect them, be
it- money or relationships or opportunities or resources or love from dear
ones. And then the problems crop up. So it is us who create problems.
It's not others or God who creates problems for us. In our case,
let’s believe that things are happening the way they should. So everything is
under control. Let’s not mess it up by acting too actively or too passively.
10.
Remember the good
In our act of reaching up the success ladder, we might forget all
the people who were there with us, for us and behind us. It seems ok but it
makes you thankless and leaves you regretful. So let’s not forget all those
kind , good and concerned people who made or makes our ladder to success or
happiness possible.
All the wonderful things we’ve learnt from them or their acts
or their personal experiences matter a lot. They are going to design our life
and character.
11. Hold no grudge
Let’s not hold any grudge or any ill-feeling towards any person
even if we had a bitter experience with him/ her. Such feelings are going to
destroy us but not them. Let’s have positive thoughts about everything and
everyone. These will echo and resonate throughout our body and mind and
influence our actions and their results.
12. Communicate to
tighten the bonds
We find many people around us in our young age caring us, having
fun with us, celebrating with us, showing concern for us, sharing things with
us, helping us, irritating us and disappointing us. Surprisingly, these all
people will not be a continuous part of our life. These all are there to help
us grow well. They leave us or we leave them the moment we become
independent.
Only communication can keep these relationships alive else these
get faded with time. We still need them to feel loved, feel cared and feel
longed for. But we cannot be with them to receive these all. So only
communication is the best option to keep up such relationships no matter
wherever you are tomorrow.
So do communicate with all those people who are meant for you
giving a little space and time in your busy life. Let’s talk to and with people
whether they like you or not or whether you like them or not. It is only
communication which can bring people together, which can heal mental wounds,
which can wipe out the wrong conceptions people have about you.
Those people who criticize us start praising us if we can
communicate with them in a way that touches the divine spark in them.
Communication costs nothing. But losing relationships costs a lot. Let’s bear
this fact throughout our life.
Let’s feel that now is moment we have been waiting or
longing for all these years; now is the time of independence in our life! Let’s
feel that we had all those moments we could cherish later on in your life!
Let’s believe that now is the time which will be etched in golden letters in
the history of our life for this was the time when we have realized that
everything we do shall only add to our glory and prosperity in the later part
of my life.
